You know, it’s one thing to connect with someone over a social media platform but it’s another to meet that same person and vibe with them on another level; Tyece and Yettiare prime examples. This past weekend, I headed down to Washington D.C. again to attend and support Twenties Unscripted’s second event of the year, Brunch, Blogs & Books. My Saturday night was full of laughs and drinks (check out Eatonville if you’re in the area), stories of the up’s and down’s of personal blogging and stories from our personal lives that’ll never see the light of day on a blog. We were women with different personalities who shared the common goal of wanting nothing more than to write the God’s honest truth about who we are and the lives we live on our platforms. We found nothing wrong with the profanity in the posts. We loved the group of people who rocked with us from day one and stuck it out with all of the revamps and redesigns. We told the truth and shamed the devil on our feelings on internet trollers and “you-really-ain’t-anonymous” comments on our work. We knew that we had to continue to support one another.
There are millions of people who blog, undoubtedly, but there aren’t many people who do what we do – blog the nitty gritty shit and support other women. It’s always a competition, when it doesn’t have to be. You can learn from other women without being catty. It is possible to walk away with something useful from someone who is doing more or less than what you do. Surrounding yourself with people who have dreams, stay up late at night jotting down ideas and goals just like you and who are making moves is one of the best things you could ever do for yourself. There is power in being in the presence of women.
This was also apparent and present in Sunday’s event.
I didn’t know 98% of the women in attendance but we bonded over mimosas, exchanged business cards and Twitter names. The volume in the conference room went up in a matter of minutes, the air full of questions and excitement – “how long have you been blogging?” and “I’ve been looking for a blog like yours for a while.” The audience asked questions and the panelists, The Frenemy’s Alida Nugent, USA Today’s Lindsey Deutsch, and All The Many Layers’ GG Renee Hill, answered them openly and honestly. The panelists’ work was in your local Barnes & Noble and published on the world’s biggest websites but they never once acted too big for their britches. No one woman in the room was more superior than the woman next to or across from her.
We all write. We give it our all. We nodded in agreement at Alida’s statement, “there’s something you have to say that hasn’t been said yet.” Despite what the world says about us, we do matter. Our voices mean something. If it were a church service, we would’ve lifted our hands and wiggled our fingers to the ceilings at Lindsey’s point of it being hard to stand out and how necessary it is to talk about the impact we made. As bloggers, it’s hard for people to take us seriously. As women, we have to keep proving ourselves. It is not selfish – talk yo’ shit. If the feedback is positive, good. If the feedback is negative, good. Promote yourself. GG said it’s supposed to make you uncomfortable and if it doesn’t, you aren’t doing enough.
There were so many gems in the room; in the women and in the words spoken. We left with new names and numbers, blogs bookmarked in our smartphones and wisdom stored in our spirits. I felt enlightened and refreshed. I’m going keep pushing and keep promoting, but more than anything, I’m going to continue to remain in the presence of women who are feminists at its finest – women who empower.
Check out the #BrunchBlogsBooks hashtag on Twitter for more of the gems & re-caps from some of the women in attendance.